"Oh my gosh. I could literally never date an actor." - so many actors I know.
Let me be the first to tell you - it's tough. But it's also magical. To be in a relationship with someone who gets it: the rejection, the dropping everything for an audition, the struggle, the dream.
I was one of those people who said I couldn't date an actor. I needed to be the star in the relationship - I know that about myself: I require a lot of attention. (As do most actors). So I thought that dating an actor would make me play second fiddle or (God forbid!) share the spotlight. And you know what? It did both of those things at times. As would dating literally any other human-being on the planet.
Sitting here, writing this post on the eve of our anniversary, engaged and happy as hell, I can tell you that dropping that wall and dating an actor has been one of the best things I have ever done. As with everything, it's not for everyone. But! Here is why I veer on the side of "give it a chance."
1. Actors are people who (usually) aren't afraid dive into the emotional stuff
"A lot of guys have muscles. A lot of strong men in this world. I think it's important to show that even under all this strength there's a fragile side, a side that can be affected." - Sylvester Stallone. Rocky comin' in hot with his self-actualization! In LA - lots and lots of guys have muscles. But most don't show their fragile side. I don't want to make this a generalized statement because of course there are those douchey actors who are "actors" and they have super abs that they love to take selifes of, but even they have a tendency to not be afraid of emotion as much as men who aren't getting up and crying in front of a class full of their peers three a week.
2. Actors are great communicators
I haven't met an actor that didn't like to talk. Even if they were talking just to talk. And if they didn't like to talk - they at least liked to be heard. They like to figure things out with words because that is what they do for their artistic expression. They work out imaginary problems with made-up words. When in a committed relationship, this is an amazing quality. My fiancé and I would sit at my kitchen table for hours when we first started dating and just talk. About the world. Politics. Religion. Artistic expression. Communication forms of animals (specifically my cat), the state of food sources, etc and I realized that was one of the reasons I loved him. He loved to communicate his thoughts on literally everything (sometimes too much so). But these conversations made me think about things in a deeper way and it made me grow as a result. That takes me to my next point....
3. Actors like to think
Do you remember dating those Small Town, USA guys who you really enjoyed but looking back see that there was some sort of impenetrable force around their emotional core that even a Lightsaber couldn't crack? Most actors I know aren't like that. They are very in touch with how they feel and what they think. They have to be in control over their instrument in order to do their job and so it comes second nature to them. They like to know what's going on in the world. They like to have an opinion on it. They like to talk about it. And for me, that is something I love.
*everything in this post is subjecting and not based on anything other than personal experience.
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Thank you for stopping by. My name is Ansley and I am a creative being. With not much to show for it. Feel the same?! Welcome! For all of you artists out there who are just hanging in there - this is for you!