"Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit." – E.E. Cummings
Confidence is a funny thing. Some people just have it. Others have put a lot of work into it. Some are searching for it. But one thing is true for all - confidence plays a huge part in our lives.
I've been working on my confidence for about a year now. I have put the effort into myself on a daily basis and have tried to not allow myself to think I am less than others because they are prettier - smarter - more successful - you name it, than me. I am by no means good at it yet, but changing my mindset to "would you talk to your best friend that way?" has helped me a lot in changing how I mentally think about myself.
No one can give you confidence. You have to create it for yourself. And trust me - it is so hard. (If anyone has a secret potion for it - let me know!) But for those of us who want to work on it, there are many benefits. I genuinely feel that confidence is the "key" for everything. Why?
Confidence makes you happier.
You are you, doing you, for you, and you don't care what others think of that. You know I am a big believer in "there's power in not giving a f*#k" and that comes from confidence.
"Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t—you’re right." - Henry Ford
What does confidence do to your career? If you are so nervous in an audition room - do you think they are going to give you the part? NO! Because who casting casts is a reflection on them... they can't have some flailing actor who was horribly nervous at the audition walk on set and be a potential a flight risk. They won't hire you if you don't have the confidence to believe you should be hired. Going back to that quote above "Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t—you’re right." YOU GUYS THIS IS HUGE. Your mindset is so crucial.
But if you walk into your audition cool as a cucumber, ready to work and take direction - casting is more likely to see you as someone who is ready to be on set. You know you can do the job so they know you can do the job.
How to build your confidence? Like I said - magic potion anyone?! Until we figure that out - confidence comes from self love which you all know I am a big fan of. Speak kindly to yourself. Take care of yourself. Take time to work on yourself and improve yourself. Take time for yourself. Figure out what makes you feel good about yourself and do more of that.
For me, building my confidence started with me turning inward. I tend to be a very outward driven person and put a lot of energy into relationships with others, interactions with other, how i am perceived by others - "oh, you're a working actress and I'm still working side jobs? You must be better than me." It is SO easy to slip into that mindset. BUT! Don't let yourself. You are not defined by your job, your career, your followers - you have so much more to offer than that. You are you and you are awesome. So celebrate that.
This is an ongoing journey for me and I might do another post on this as keep going but I wanted to put this out there - just because you are not where you want to be in your career right now, just because your dream has not come true, does not mean that it won't. Keep putting in the work. Keep pushing. And most of all: love yourself.
Oh hey there
Thank you for stopping by. My name is Ansley and I am a creative being. With not much to show for it. Feel the same?! Welcome! For all of you artists out there who are just hanging in there - this is for you!