We live in a go-go-go world rushing from one thing to the next. We are all guilty of it, especially in this city. But if I have learned anything in my time in LA is that self-care is necessary for you to live your best creative life.
If you aren't nurturing you, how do you expect to give your best?
I have tendency to burn my candle at both ends. And recently I decided I wanted to change that. I wanted to live an "artistic life" where I had time to work on myself and my art while still paying my bills (of course). So I started making small changes... and they have had big results.
Self-Care Comes in Different Forms
For some, it may be a month massage. For some, it may be keeping up with you manicure/pedicure. It may be putting on music while in the shower. Whatever makes you feel pampered. Do those things. Don't spend a bajillion dollars pampering yourself, but do do things that make you feel good. Clean your apartment - from top to bottom - and then buy some fresh flowers. Go on a hike and listen podcast that you're interested in but haven't had time to dive into. Put on a mud mask, light a candle and read a book. Do little things because they make you feel good about you. Carve time out - everyday - for this and you will see a change.
Show Yourself Off
I am guilty of hanging out with friends in old, sweaty gym clothes - like a shirt-from-a-middle-school-play old - with no makeup on and my hair up in a dirty, messy bun. I wrote if off as "I worked all day and then worked out and now I am spending time with my girls. They don't care what I look like." But I did. I show up looking like a low-key trash goblin and they show up in normal people clothes with a normal amount of makeup on and at least a little effort put into their hair. I'm not saying you need to be dolled up all of the time, but I am saying that the way you present yourself is a reflection of how you feel about yourself. "Dress for the job you want, not the job you have" that is SO true as artists. Are you giving off a "successful and happy" energy or "overworked and defeated" energy?
Self-Care is a Daily Practice
You know that one friend you have who is just the most fabulous person living the most awesome life? I bet they practice self-care. Daily. Keep your house clean. Eat your veggies, keep yourself feeling good about yourself. That will raise the energy you are putting out there and raise your confidence - and we all know "Confidence is KEY!"
Self-Care shows Self-Love
Most of us struggle with Self Love. We are so harsh on ourselves and they way we talk to ourselves is no way we would ever speak to a friend. And that needs to change. Because you are a beautiful, talented, amazing artist and the world wants to hear what you have to say. Self-Care might sound silly at first - or even selfish - but it will make a huge difference in the value you put on yourself. If your super amazing, fabulous friend was in town you'd turn on the shower radio, give her your nice towel from Pottery Barn and light a candle in the bathroom for her - so why wouldn't you do it for yourself?
Most of us are going through life on autopilot - I am so guilty of this - but when we turn off autopilot it is almost like someone turned the lights on. You are doing things with purpose. You are aware of the beautiful trees on your drive to work, your mom's cute laugh whenever you tell her anything even resembling a joke, how really really really good this new coffee you bought is. Pay attention to your life. Be "woke" as the kids would say. Don't go through life on autopilot - notice what you are grateful for, check in with your emotions if you don't feel in the best state "what is actually upsetting me right now?" and then acknowledge it and deal with it, give your body some deep breaths. Breathe in and use your lungs. Be present and pay attention to the beautiful life you have. Because it is beautiful.
Oh hey there
Thank you for stopping by. My name is Ansley and I am a creative being. With not much to show for it. Feel the same?! Welcome! For all of you artists out there who are just hanging in there - this is for you!